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What is there really even to say to one another?
I'm feeling the urge to share so many things with you.
And...
I am concurrently holding a piece that's says, "What's the point? Where would I start?"
I'm curious if you're experiencing something similar when you turn to look at your partner at the end of the day...at the end of this unique week.
Does Your Relationship Err on the Side of Caution or Take Risks?
How are you doing?
How are you really doing?
I'm not the type to ask if I didn't really care.
So I honestly invite you to hit reply and share with me what you're really experiencing, really noticing in terms of your sensations, emotions, and thoughts.
This is how I knew my relationship needed to shift....
I didn't know what to do.
I didn't know how to figure out what to do.
I was feeling emotions, sensations...having tons of thoughts.
Everything was spinning and whirling around.
This is Why Unspoken Conversations Linger Between You Two
I'm sorry your partner and you had that same circular argument again that led to...nothing.
I'm sorry you spiraled into that same funk you've been experiencing for years except now it feels...hollow.
It's like the sensations and emotions aren't even fresh anymore.
They're played out.
This is Why You Can't Solve Your Relationship Problems
Many years ago, I found myself laid off from my teaching job, caring for two young children, and floundering.
Oh, yeah. And my spouse and I were fighting.
I would yell at him from the doorway while he was sitting on the couch looking at me blankly.
Then I would leave in a rage, wondering where I could go to figure things out and wondering who would understand.
This is Where Amazing Sex Begins
I learned this tip around where amazing sex begins from Carlin Ross.
And it is:
Never show up to a moment where you want or believe sex could happen without oil or lubricant.
Why?
What's Your Relationship Doing at 7 pm?!
I'm curious...
At 7 o'clock in the evening, what do you have left for your romantic relationship?
I've been thinking about this for years.
Somehow we're programmed to lay it all out there for everyone else.
Take A Look Back at Your Weekend, Would You?
Typically I write blogs on Friday to support a deeper connection with your partner over the weekend.
Today I invite you to take a look back at your weekend.
Are things you desire to clear, release, or redo?
Maybe something you said you'd like to figure out how to say better...
Here's Why You Should Avoid Texting Important Conversations
Ahem.
I should know better.
The first time I meet with clients -- whether individually or with their partner -- we explore and go over stress cycles:
This is how to acknowledge your 2019 relationship and set up for deeper connection in 2020
In that liminal space between the December holidays and the coming of the Gregorian calendar's new year,
( My family also celebrates the Ethiopian new year, which falls on September 11. )
I find myself reviewing 2019 to acknowledge and celebrate,
and also so I can heal and grow and flourish in 2020.
If You Desire Connection with Your Partner Today Instead of -STUFF-
For me, nothing is more important than connection.
I don't want gifts. I don't need stuff.
I want to feel that when you and I are together, it is just us.
Have Each Other’s Backs This Holiday Season with This Exercise
I'm experiencing a great deal of instability in my life ranging from finances to health to relationships.
It's keeping me in survival mode hour-to-hour these days.
But...
When I woke up this morning to the day before a major holiday in the US, I thought of you.
Are You Coming Together or Coming Apart in Your Relationship?
This morning I'm thinking a lot about integration and individuation in relationships.
Relationships have many different phases and seasons.
And...
It helps me to have a map or a blueprint for understanding where I'm at and where I want to go.
What Your Partner and You Value Matters...A Lot
I'm just going to jump right to it.
One of the three foundations for a successful and fulfilling relationship is shared goals and values.
( The other two are sexual chemistry and conflict resolution style. )
And I've been thinking...
What Are You Not Hearing From Your Partner?
“Who knows how you received my yes,” she said.
Recently my partner and I were talking about whether we were going to an event together.
We’d spoke about it a few weeks earlier and then dropped it.
I thought it was undecided.
Heal With Your Partner By Feeling and Acknowledging These Pieces of You
When we show up to our relationship, we don't show up alone.
We come with:
Our inner child
Biology…and more
Deep Safety in Your Relationship Requires This
ARE YOU 100% IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
Commitment to a romantic relationship means:
Being there when your partner(s) need you
Investing in their happiness
This is How You Can Co-Create Your Deeply Satisfying Love Relationship
Your relationship never stops offering you the opportunity to heal, to grow, and to connect.
No matter how old your relationship is...
( though I am curious around when may be too soon to start... )
I invite you to see the potential in your relationship.
You Can Only Offer -Yourself- Unconditional Love, NOT Anyone Else
Not long ago I was talking about unconditional love with someone.
They were asking around offering their partner unconditional love.
I had to stop them for a moment.
"Offering unconditional love from one human being to another human being isn't possible," I said.
