Heal With Your Partner By Feeling and Acknowledging These Pieces of You

When we show up to our relationship, we don't show up alone.

We come with:

• Our inner child
  

• Biology
  

• Two ancestral lineages
  

• Our heart
  

• Our genitals
  

• Inner judges and critics
  

• Our primal brains
  

• Our stories
  

• Karmas
  

• Spiritual path and
  

• Often a lot of emotional baggage from the past
  

Not only do we show up like this, our partner shows up with all of this, too.

TWICE THE FUN.

Photo by Maarten van den Heuvel

To heal with your partner—in your relationship and within yourself—feel and acknowledge some of these pieces of you with these eight steps:

STEP ONE:

Arrange five pillows, five in a square about one foot apart apart and the fifth pillow about two feet off to the side.

The pillows in the square shape represent different emotions/states:

• Fear
  

• Inner child
  

• Desires
  

• Higher wisdom

Decide who will begin sharing, Partner A, and who will listen, Partner B. Partner B will sit on the outside pillow.

Pick an issue that is challenging, that you have been arguing about or that has been a long-standing issue in your relationship.

STEP 2:

Partner A will sit down on one of the pillows in the square, and this pillow represents fear.

Tune into your body, and find a part of you that is either afraid, scared, upset or challenged by this issue, and give this part of you a voice.

Speak openly and freely from this part of you.

After listening for 2 minutes, Partner B, say the following: I hear you. I am listening. I accept you.

STEP 3:

Partner A, stand up and move to the pillow representing your inner child.

Feel into yourself for a part of that feels young, an inner child part of you.

Let this inner child have a voice and speak through you about this issue.

Set the timer for 2 minutes and when the timer rings, Partner B will say: I hear you. I am listening. I accept you.

STEP 4:

Partner A, stand up and move to the pillow representing your desires.

Share from the desire within you around this challenging topic.

Give your desire a full voice and expression.

After 2 minutes, Partner B will say: I hear you. I am listening. I accept you.

STEP 5:

Partner A, stand up, move to the pillow representing your higher wisdom, and channel your higher wisdom.

Share and speak from your higher wisdom on this topic.

After 2 minutes, Partner B will say: I hear you. I am listening. I accept you.

Partner A, thank your partner for listening to you.

STEP 6:

Now switch roles and seats, and repeat steps 1-4.

STEP 7:

Take time to share with each other:

• What did you learn from this process and how was it for you?
  
  

• What are you going to take away from this challenge or issue that you just discussed so that you understand each other more deeply?
  
  

• What resolution or compromise have you come to from doing this process?

STEP 8:

Thank each other.


A deeper connection within and in love comes with self-awareness, healing, and integration.

Sending you so much love on your journey,
Daniela