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We Need More Guidance Around Self-Pleasuring and Sex
May I share something with you?
For decades I looked for guidance to support me to experience climax for the first time.
Maybe for a decade, my partner at the time and I looked for guidance around how to improve our sex life.
Books and sex therapists and outdated VHS videos got me nowhere.
This is How To Gently Awaken Your Sexuality with Spring Energy
Feel the sun warming the air...
See the flowers bloom yellow, red, pink...
Taste fresh, dripping fruit...
Inhale freshly cut grass and squeezed lemons...
Which is More Closed Off: Your Heart or Your Sexuality?
For just a moment, close your eyes or let them gently unfocus.
Breathe into your heart.
Is it open?
Can you expand and soften into your heart with some ease?
Gently Support One Another's Bodies and Sexuality with Loving Touch
Sit down with me?
I'm picturing us nestled around a small, square table.
The flat wood is darker, and the texture offers my chest calm and grounding sensations with a reminder of the outdoors.
Maybe you're across from me so we can look at one another.
I've got deep questions around relationships right now.
Distancing in the form of individuation and differentiating yourself from your partner is normal and healthy.
It supports autonomy and growth and prevents enmeshment and...
I dare say...
a toxic intimacy that snuffs out the possibility of passion.
Several days ago I threw a glass at the floor and shattered it....
I wasn't angry.
I wasn't triggered.
And several days ago I picked up a glass and shattered it on the floor.
I was frustrated.
I was beyond my capacity.
This is How You Take Ownership of Your Sexuality
You may not be having sex or as much sex as you want with your partner during this pandemic.
Maybe—like me—your partner and you are sheltering-in-place in different locations.
You may be single or dating.
Heal With Your Partner By Feeling and Acknowledging These Pieces of You
When we show up to our relationship, we don't show up alone.
We come with:
Our inner child
Biology…and more
You Are Perfectly Human and Sacred
I am new to sacred.
If you grew up or are in a religion or spirituality or nature, sacred may be common for you to practice or appreciate.
Restoring the 5 Stages of Sexuality
I'm not sure about you, but I'm a pretty serious person.
I'm focused. I'm precise. I'm intense.
That doesn't sound like much fun.
Especially in the bedroom.
Annnnnnnd if I explore these through the five stages of sexuality, these "serious" qualities sound more like:
4 Steps to Connect Desire with Arousal (or the vice versa)
Sometimes I catch myself looking at Shaun and wanting to rub myself all over him.
I'm not always clear in that moment which part of me is responding....
Because it could be my heart.
Swelling with the love, compassion, joy, emotion I feel with him and toward him.
This Is Why A Jade Egg Practice Makes Sex Amazing
"People put jade...
that green stone...
that's in the shape of an egg...
where?!"