Your commitment to yourself is a minimum of three months.

This is to support you to see it as a process, journey, and an experience.

In the beginning, people can feel hopeful and excited and optimistic.

As we continue, people can feel awkward, vulnerable, reactive, and resistant.

To integrate awareness, new skills, and co-create together takes time.

When these feelings come up, it’s important to lean into them instead of give up.

Realizations can be uncomfortable, and working through them is where growth happens.

I commit to showing up for three months to support you, and I ask for your commitment to yourself.

After three months, you’ll have the option to shift to weekly, every other week, every three weeks, once a month, or on an as-needed basis.

Each week you’ll dedicate 60 minutes to our coaching session with additional time in between sessions for exploring resources, home exercises and practices along with passive considerations.

These can range from five-to-twenty minutes depending on our area of focus.

Each month you’ll engage in four 60-minute sessions via Zoom with some months having an integration week.

You’ll be invited to focus on two or three items in between sessions.

They are often one active practice or exercise that takes pause and focus, and a second, more passive item that you can explore while cooking, driving, walking, showering, etc.

These items may include embodied exercises and practices from the fields of neuroscience, trauma healing, modern psychology, and ancient Tantric and Taoist wisdom led within session.

Curated exercises and practices are provided for you to do each week on your own to deepen and integrate the work we’re doing in sessions along with resource and passive considerations.

You will also receive consistent, no-nonsense accountability.

Individual email support is available between sessions if you find yourself feeling confused or stuck.

Therapy and counseling are a great fit for people who want to talk about their sex, love, and/or relationship problems and gain awareness of the problems themselves.

Coaching is more appropriate for people who are aware of the problem and are committed and ready to take action to get what they want instead.

The coaching I offer involves a wide variety of tools, practices, and techniques to get you results as quickly as possible.

If you want to move from struggling or okay to thriving and flourishing, coaching is how you get there to experience and embody it.

I don't take insurance, and here's why.

First, I am a certified Sex and Intimacy Coach and not a licensed therapist or counselor. Currently the latter is more regulated and systemically supported by insurance companies who may cover a portion of rates.

Second, when insurance companies do cover services, they collect your personal data. This can include how often you meet, how long you meet for, over what period of time, and the different types of visits you have, like relationship and/or individual sessions. Insurance companies also can have access to more intimate details in your file, which often includes notes, plans, exercises, practices, recommendations, and more (Thank you to Amanda Walters for these insights).

Finally, insurance companies are in the business of extracting labor and making money. Reimbursement rates tend to be low, certain diagnoses when working with clinicians are not covered under insurance plans, and claim denial is a common occurrence.

I am here for confidentiality, greater safety, and privacy.

I am here to value my gifts and offerings to you.

Not taking insurance ensures I can protect your confidentiality to its fullest, and it means I can unapologetically earn a living that supports my family and me to thrive.

You arrive to Zoom, and we enter into that time together with the intention to be present and connected.

We begin with a grounding and centering practice then share celebrations and gratitude prompted from the previous week’s desires and your overall focus.

The purpose is to acknowledge what is working and build off of it.

The bulk of the session we focus on naming and exploring the next steps toward what you want to experience together by talking, engaging body-based practices, and/or mindfulness and awareness practices.

At the end, I review two practices (one active and one passive) with you to explore in between sessions over the next week and beyond.

Finally we end with you sharing two favorite moments, two moments you’re grateful for, or two insightful or ah-ha moments.

Then I offer you my two favorite moments to create a third perspective from the outside looking in, a part of the session many people look forward to and thoroughly enjoy.

Afterward I send you an email with the two exercises as a reminder, and I check in by email four days later.

You can use this as an opportunity to check in with yourself and/or hit reply and share with me what you’re experiencing.

When we work together, I support you with the most effective teachings steeped in somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, neuroscience, holistic healing, trauma resolution, and modern coaching blended with ancient tantric and taoist wisdom.

We use embodied exercises, practices, and toy/tools as I guide you to uncover blocks, fears, and resistance and how to hold, heal, and integrate them to reveal the wholeness and health that is within you.

The VITA™ (Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach) Method is often where we’ll start.

Foundational beliefs of this method are:

• Sexuality is sacred, beautiful, powerful, and natural

• Pure love is the primary force that sustains us

• Meaningful relationships are necessary for a joyful life

Holistic tools working with the felt sense around awareness, mindfulness, guided meditation, breathwork, pleasure practices, trauma resolution, energy work, sounding, and movement support us to resolve even the deepest challenges.