Sex & Intimacy Coaching
for Individuals
Explore
DEEP
Sexual Intimacy & Connection
With Yourself
So you might experience nourishing love, delicious self-pleasure, and fulfilling sex with a partner or partners
DELVE INTO A 3-MONTH INDIVIDUAL SEX & INTIMACY COACHING CONTAINER
If you feel disconnected from yourself,
feel distant or numb around your sexuality,
realize you’re surviving but not really tasting the flavors of life…
it can be difficult to know what you need to move toward the connection you desire.
Instead of continuing to avoid it
or hoping it changes,
you know it's time
to take a proactive approach
to getting the support you need.
It may be scary to imagine…
and with support it is possible for you to:
CLARIFY your needs and desires
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CONNECT to your body and sexuality
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COMMUNICATE with yourself and others
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HEAL your fears and soften your protection
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CO-CREATE your sex life—both self-pleasure and partnered sex
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All So You Can:
How do you know if you’re in the right place?
This 3-MONTH JOURNEY into Sex & Intimacy is for:
SINGLE INDIVIDUALS who aren’t in a relationship and who want to know with clarity what they want and need in partnership.
INDIVIDUALS who want to connect to themselves and heal and are willing to learn about themselves and what they desire.
PEOPLE IN RELATIONSHIPS who want more and can be a source of change within themselves while inviting their partner to do the same.
QUEER, STRAIGHT, POLY, and PEOPLE WITH OTHER PROGRESSIVE DYNAMICS who want to live authentic and aligned and need to know who they are and what they want outside of dominant paradigms.
This is NOT for:
PEOPLE WHO NEED A TRAUMA SPECIALIST and may have specific sexual trauma, diagnosed PTSD, or need to seek other inner work prior to beginning this 3-month container.
PEOPLE WHO WANT A PILL OR A QUICK FIX and who aren’t ready to commit to vulnerable and exciting inner and outer work.
Together I’ll Support You To Gain and Refine These SKILLS & CAPACITIES
Let’s Look At Each One Specifically:
What’s important to you, your needs, your wants, your desires, your fears, your triggers
Awareness through clarity is the first step. By identifying and educating you around your love, sex, mind, and heart, we begin to name the blocks, obstacles, challenges, and systems that stand in your way.
Your body, your mind, your heart, your sex
By embodying, experiencing, and accepting love and sex with authenticity, we also develop bone-deep awareness of what is systemic oppression, what is personal experiences from your own life, ancestry, and lineage, and what is you.
Verbal, non-verbal, vibes, emotions, written, text
By celebrating, holding space, inviting, and sharing, we grow the skills of giving and receiving through compassion and replace shame with love, safety, belonging, joy, pleasure, and acceptance.
Misunderstandings, guilt, anger, trauma, resentment
By witnessing, feeling, and liberating past experiences, grudges, resentments, and trauma, we can process deep feelings, vulnerable sensations, and triggered reactions wired in from your personal past, ancestry, and collective trauma experiences.
Explore yourself and your partner to express, invite, initiate, request, offer, receive
By forming a container, setting intentions, establishing mindsets, and exploring practical erotic and sexual intimacy knowledge, skills, and rituals, we can co-create the sex we want and the intimacy we desire.
How Are We Going To Achieve This Together?
WEEKLY 75-MINUTE SESSIONS
The full weekly session time (not a therapy “hour” that’s actually 50 minutes). 12 weekly sessions within 3 months
SUPPORT & ACCOUNTABILITY
Check-in emails four days after sessions for accountability and support
ACTION IN BETWEEN SESSIONS
Based on what we’ve talked about, embodied, and explored in session, emailed guided audios, practices, exercises, and resources support you to reinforce and deepen your change and transformation
COMPASSION & FIRMNESS
Whether being gentle or direct is what you need to be supported and take steps forward, we will oscillate back and forth to get you where you want to go
VERBAL, SOMATIC, & MINDFULNESS
I invite you to talk about what you're experiencing like you might in therapy with verbal, cognitive reasoning.
This is often referred to as top down healing.
I guide you to connect to your body and the sensations, imagination, and wisdom there, even if you've never done it before.
This may be experienced as going from the bottom up or going down and in.
I support you with mindfulness, awareness practices to slow down reactions and to cultivate the capacity to respond.
This is a sideways practice.
Using all three together supports a holistic and integrative approach that goes deep and supports long-lasting transformation.
SCIENCE & ENERGY
Approaches using neuroscience, modern psychology, and trauma resolution alongside inspiration from ancient traditions like tantra and taosim
FLEXIBILITY
Some room within our commitment to one another for emergencies, scheduling conflicts, vacations, rest, and integration when we do twelve sessions within three months
Your Investment
ONE EASY INSTALLMENT
$3,600
3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS
$1,200
Weekly Rate Includes:
12 weekly 60-minute sessions at the equivalent of $300 per week (add $35 per in-person session)
The full session time (it’s not based on a therapy hour, which is generally 50 minutes)
An email right after our session with two curated guided audios, practices, exercises, resources, and considerations
A check-in email four days later for accountability and support
Frequently Asked Questions:
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Your commitment is for a 60-minute session each week in addition to time for home exercises and practices, which are usually about 15 minutes, 2-5 times per week.
You commit to meet for twelve sessions within three months with the option to move to every other week, every three weeks, once a month, or on an as-needed basis after that.
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We start with 60-minute sessions together via Zoom most weeks.
You’ll be invited to focus on two or three things in between sessions.
They are often one active practice or exercise that takes time and presence, and a second, more passive item that you can explore while cooking, driving, walking, showering, etc.
Curated exercises and practices are provided for you to do each week on your own to deepen and integrate the work we’re doing in sessions along with passive considerations.
These things may include activities from the fields of somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, neuroscience, trauma healing, modern psychology, and ancient Tantric and Taoist wisdom led within session.
Finally, you will also receive consistent accountability and support with email check-ins in between sessions.
They exist to acknowledge and celebrate your growth and/or if you find yourself feeling confused or stuck.
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Therapy and counseling are a great fit for people who want to talk about their sex, love, and/or relationship problems and gain awareness of the problems themselves.
Coaching is more appropriate for people who are aware of the problem and are committed and ready to take action to get what they want instead.
The coaching I offer involves a wide variety of tools, practices, and techniques to get you results as quickly as possible.
If you want to move from struggling or okay to thriving and flourishing, coaching is how you get there to experience and embody it.
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I don't take insurance, and here's why.
First, I am a certified Sex and Intimacy Coach and not a licensed therapist or counselor. Currently the latter is more regulated and systemically supported by insurance companies who may cover a portion of rates.
Second, when insurance companies do cover services, they collect your personal data. This can include how often you meet, how long you meet for, over what period of time, and the different types of visits you have, like relationship and/or individual sessions. Insurance companies also can have access to more intimate details in your file, which often includes notes, plans, exercises, practices, recommendations, and more (Thank you to Amanda Walters for these insights).
Finally, insurance companies are in the business of extracting labor and making money. Reimbursement rates tend to be low, certain diagnoses when working with clinicians are not covered under insurance plans, and claim denial is a common occurrence.
I am here for confidentiality, greater safety, and privacy.
I am here to value my gifts and offerings to you.
Not taking insurance ensures I can protect your confidentiality to its fullest, and it means I can unapologetically earn a living that supports my family and me to thrive.
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You arrive to Zoom, and we enter into that time together with the intention to be present and connected.
We begin with a grounding and centering practice then share celebrations and gratitude prompted from the previous week’s desires and your overall focus.
The purpose is to acknowledge what is working and build off of it.
The bulk of the session we focus on naming and exploring the next steps toward what you want to experience together by talking, engaging body-based practices, and/or mindfulness and awareness practices.
At the end, I review two practices (one active and one passive) with you to explore in between sessions over the next week and beyond.
Finally we end with you sharing two favorite moments, two moments you’re grateful for, or two insightful or ah-ha moments.
I offer clients my two favorite moments to create another perspective from the outside looking in, a ritual many people look forward to and thoroughly enjoy.
Afterward I send you an email with the two exercises as a reminder, and I check in by email four days later.
You can use this as an opportunity to check in with yourself and/or hit reply and share with me what you’re experiencing.
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I work with people in open relationships, polyamorous relationships, monogamous, and fluid or dynamic relationships.
Working with couples to around connection and communication on their sex life and relationship is also a part of my offerings. We can alternate coupled and individual sessions as requested and advised.
I will work with you to curate a coaching experience relevant for your relationship structure.
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When we work together, I support you with the most effective teachings steeped in somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, neuroscience, holistic healing, trauma resolution, and modern coaching blended with ancient tantric and taoist wisdom.
We use embodied exercises, practices, and toy/tools as I guide you to uncover blocks, fears, and resistance and how to hold, heal, and integrate them to reveal the wholeness and health that is within you.
The VITA™ (Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach) Method is often where we’ll start.
Foundational beliefs of this method are:
Sexuality is sacred, beautiful, powerful, and natural
Pure love is the primary force that sustains us
Meaningful relationships are necessary for a joyful life
Holistic tools working with the felt sense around awareness, mindfulness, guided meditation, breathwork, pleasure practices, trauma resolution, energy work, sounding, and movement support us to resolve even the deepest challenges.
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I am a Certified Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship Coach with a specialization in Relationships through the VITA™ Institute (formerly the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality).
I continued my studies pursuing additional specializations in Tantric Sex, Jade Egg, and Men's Work.
I have a Masters Degree in Communication Studies with a focus on Women’s Studies and pedagogy, which has facilitated me in teaching college classes and workshops on interpersonal communication, small group communication, critical thinking, and argumentation.
With additional trainings in somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, somatic abolitionism, and trauma resolution, I am committed to liberation away from social conditioning and stepping into self-responsibility and interconnectedness.I am also a gentle, restorative, and yin yoga instructor, having studied with dozens of acupuncturists, chiropractors, yoga teachers, and educators in various disciplines.
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Not at all.
We will discuss sex, love, and relationships and reference anatomy, but everyone will be clothed in each session.
Some clients experience some discomfort with discussing these topics, which is understandable.
I invite you to share what you’re experiencing—each session is a safer space to bravely share openly, even if that means naming that it feels awkward.
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I live and work on the ancestral and unceded traditional territories of the Ohlone people that’s currently known as the Bay Area of California in the United States.
Because we can connect via Zoom, I work with clients from all over the world.
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I offer a free 15-minute phone call and an online 60-minute trial session for $300 USD to discover if we are a good fit for one another.
After our time together, I send you a follow-up email with resources as well as an email checking in with you a few days later.
To reflect a committed, mutually-beneficial relationship, I require payment for my time and expertise.
If we decide to work together, next steps include reviewing and signing a trust agreement and a service agreement to make our expectations known and clear to one another.
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Working on sex, love, and relationships can trigger fear.
Fear can influence our actions, and we may decide staying comfortable is more important than moving through difficulty and toward growth.
I value honesty and am happy to have a frank conversation with you to find out whether a desire to end our commitment to a discussed container is coming from a place of fear or because we’re not a good match.
Sometimes unexpected life events can affect your ability to fully participate in a coaching container.
If this happens, I ask that you communicate with me, so we can create a plan.
In cooperation with your commitment and agreement, I commit to working with you for a specific amount of time.
People are welcome to voluntarily remove themselves from the coaching container.
However, participants who voluntarily exit or discontinue any program will not receive a refund on funds already paid.
Exiting the agreement early financially impacts me, and for this reason, my expectation is that you fulfill your commitment to pay the remaining balance over the duration mutually agreed upon if we don’t have an open conversation around next steps for everyone.
Past Clients Have Expressed These Results:
CONNECT
DEEPLY
Experience deep sexual connection and intimacy with yourself and a partner or partners
Initiate and respond well to your partner initiating around intimacy of all kinds—emotional, mental, physical, sexual, and spiritual intimacies
PRESENCE & PLEASURE
Solidify how to be present and connected within yourself and with others to receive and offer pleasure & care
Focus on experiencing the most amount of pleasure possible while exploring orgasms, multiple orgasms, joint orgasms, and orgasms with and without ejaculation for all
CAPACITY & SKILLS
Deeper capacity to feel, to be present, to receive and offer intimacy and sex
Specific skills around connecting to your body and pleasure, communicating what’s important to you along with your desires and fears, knowledge around emotional presence, support, and care all to increase your confidence around sex, love, & relationships
I wanted to feel a deeper connection to my sexuality—not for a partner, but for me.
Since working with Daniela I can honestly say I am more sexually fulfilled now, even eing post-menopausal.
- J W
If you are ready to commit to yourself, and if you are ready to invest in having what you want,
I can support you toward growth and transformation.
Embodied exercises and practices steeped in neuroscience, trauma resolution, modern psychology, and ancient tantric and taoist wisdom will get you the results you’ve been looking for.
Then you can choose with clarity what is authentic and true for you as well as what's right for you to THRIVE in your life.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I am here with you.
Hey, I’m Daniela (she/they)
For over twenty-four years, I’ve worked with thousands of people coaching one-on-one, teaching in college classrooms, and guiding them in yoga studios.
Through building your skills and capacity to connect to your inner wisdom, honor your authentic sexuality, and love your partner,
I am here to inspire you to be true to yourself and to guide you to co-create a life that heals your wounds and fulfills your deepest desires.
This is not talk therapy.
I support you to take immediate, concrete action to get into and be present with your body through desire-led and change-oriented sex & intimacy coaching.