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What Is Tantra and Do You Want A Tantric Coach?
Tantra has become a compelling practice, spirituality, mindset, healing modality, and so much more.
And for good reason; it’s non-dual.
What that means is there isn’t a hierarchy between body and mind.
How Is Coaching Different From Therapy or Counseling?
Sex and intimacy coaching is an unregulated field, and therefore professionals cannot be registered or licensed to provide services.
Also, coaching is generally not covered by insurance and is a broad field that can cover a lot of different methods and services.
My style of coaching involves a wide variety of tools, practices, and techniques to support you to experience deep and lasting results through education, self-awareness, and body-based somatic practices.
4 Questions to Ask to Discover More Pleasure in Your and Your Partner's Bodies
My wish is that you have an amazing, deep, connected, vibrant, expressive sexual connection with yourself and with your partner.
This is my work. This is my offering.
And when the hypocrisy of our cultures and societies oftentimes show up at the intersections of Puritanical, religious views and capitalizing on the selling of youthful sex and honeymoon sex, our bodyminds get confused and freeze.
This is why my work exists.
9 Qualities for Determining the State of Your Union
"On a scale from 1 to 10, how happy are you as a couple?"
Mr. and Mrs. Smith is a movie that's spoken to me for a long time.
It was trying to tell me something about long term committed relationships.
I sat with it for years before I figured it out.
Even though it's from a cis white heteronormative framing, it's still about two people experiencing what I call The Relationship Journey.
To Be Chosen, You Have To Communicate Your Needs First
I see you relaxing back, receiving so much love and care and support that you need and want.
I see you doing it with ease and it coming to you so lusciously.
Here's the thing, though.
Most sitcoms don't show the characters knowing what they want, communicating what they want, or getting what they want.
3 Simple Steps To Reignite Love & More in Your Relationship
I see your partner and you and hold what's possible for you both.
I see the excitement and exhilaration of honeymoon, springtime-like love and sex,
especially in the shift to autumn.
4 Steps for Clearing Time To Connect With Your Partner
When your partner and you were dating, you cleared out time to see one another, to do things, to have sex.
Sometimes you gave up sleep or money or a lunch hour or seeing friends to laugh and smile and experience one another.
4 Steps For Setting A Time Container for Getting sexy
When I was pre-orgasmic, I explored so many things wanting to experience orgasm for the first time.
I felt more than broken; I felt like I didn't belong to the human population (enneagram 4).
Ohhhhhhh I read books. I went to six therapists. I watched videos. I bought vibrating toys.
It's when I read Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm that I was first introduced to the concept of a time container.
6 Steps to Shifting for Being Present and Connected
When my children were young, the hardest part was shifting.
If we were shifting from being in the house to leaving to go to the store,
or shifting from playing to putting on clothes,
Connection Doesn't Happen at Warp Speed; It Requires Space
I am all over the place. Maybe you can relate.
My brain is foggy.
My body is unsteady.
My desires are inarticulable.
Three Steps I Wish None Of Us Had To Take
Well.
I’m going to say the most vulnerable thing.
(Content warning/trigger warning: sexual assault)
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White-Hot Lightning Kisses Are Within You
Have you ever kissed someone and experienced lightning?
Touched lips, entangled energies, and felt an electric pulse sweep through you to ignite your sensations…?
A friend has been sharing their experience with this, talking about what and how another person makes them feel when I said,
You are lightning.
Are You Willing To Grow With Your Partner?
Back when I was training as an Integrated Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, I remember having conversations with my colleagues about what to look for in a partner.
What makes having the sex you want and the intimacy you desire possible in a relationship...for both of you?
The answer I came up with?
I was peeing in the car every few seconds from a UTI
Several years ago I developed a UTI so painful that in the car on the way to the emergency room, I was peeing every few seconds onto a stack of cloth diapers I'd placed under me.
The few seconds of relief I had paled into comparison to the sharp, burning, twisting pain I felt.
The UTIs I've experienced I've never directly correlated to having sex either consciously or unconsciously.
Heal Within The Stone Hearth of Your Relationship for Fire and Light
You.
Me.
What do we know about supporting long term relationships to thrive, to flourish...
To experience the fullness of being human...
To explore the richness, depth, passion, and connection of being alive?
We Need More Guidance Around Self-Pleasuring and Sex
May I share something with you?
For decades I looked for guidance to support me to experience climax for the first time.
Maybe for a decade, my partner at the time and I looked for guidance around how to improve our sex life.
Books and sex therapists and outdated VHS videos got me nowhere.
5 Steps for Coming into Presence and Connection with Your Partner and Loved Ones
"Wait. Wait. Can you say that again?"
I'm in the kitchen, and my youngest who is eight is next to me saying something about turtles and the beach.
A piece of me is replaying a past conversation with someone else as I pour some tea.
I recognize another piece wants to be in the present and connected to what he's sharing with me.
This is What Fun and Play Have To Do With Sex and Pleasure
I spontaneously went on a road trip to my friend's friend's place The Bearded Lady Pub to have some fun food (think beignets, fried Oreos, Twinkies, churros, cookie dough bites, etc.)
I gave myself permission to follow this whim despite not having any intentions or expectations.
Maybe inspired by Esther Perel's recent 7-day exploration around the art of foreplay...Perel first invites participants to focus on play.
Embody and Experience Your Inner Child for Deep Healing
At the intersection of two different triggers last week, I let myself sink into my darkened bedroom and cloudy thoughts.
I pulled the curtains across the brightness of the afternoon and climbed into my bed.
I wrapped the sheet and blankets around me tight.