Sex & Intimacy Coaching

for Loving Couples

Experience

Deeper Connection in Love & Pleasure TOGETHER

EVEN IF RIGHT NOW YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’RE ON DIFFERENT TRACKS

Begin with an initial 3-or-6 month sex & intimacy coaching container

It might be scary to imagine…
and with support it is possible for you to feel:

DEEPLY LOVED in your relationship…even during times of conflict

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SAFE ENOUGH to be vulnerable together…even when shame creeps in

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CAPABLE OF CO-CREATING a sense of deep acceptance in your relationship…even when our culture and society says we’re not enough

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A DEEP & INTIMATE CONNECTION with your partner filled with the beauty of vulnerability…even when you’re stressed

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BRAVE ENOUGH to leave the pressure to perform behind and enter a space of spontaneity and relaxed erotic play…even when the known feels comforting

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PLEASURE IN YOUR BODY and with your partner in a sensuous and sexual relationship…even when desire feels like it’s more important

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VIBRANT & ALIVE with a foundation of love and safety that's also filled with adventure and fun…even when the world is on fire

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All So You Can Experience:

MORE SEX & BETTER SEX

Like the sex you’re having…more than you like watching TV or scrolling on your phone

Experience confidence, skill, and curiosity when it comes to initiating with your partner and responding well when they initiate with you

PLEASURE & ORGASMS

Connect with what feels good in your body and experiment with the formula of orgasm

Focus on experiencing the most amount of pleasure possible and orgasms, multiple orgasms, joint orgasms, and orgasms with and without ejaculation will be the cherry on top

CONFIDENCE & SKILLS

Clarity on how to connect and communicate within and with your partner

Sex skills, communication skills, emotional presence, support, and care…increase and strengthen your skills and capacity for greater confidence around sex, love, & relationships

If you are disconnected from your partner,

feel distant or numb when it comes to sex,

realize you’re sharing a life, but you’re not sharing yourselves with each other…

it can be difficult to know what you need to move toward the connection you desire.

Instead of continuing to avoid it

or hoping it changes,

you know it's time

to take a proactive approach

to getting the support you need.

You’re in the right place if:

Your partner and you sit on opposite sides of the couch. One of you is scrolling, one of you is watching TV.

You communicate well about logistics. But you’re seeking emotional support and validation from a friend, family member, or co-worker.

You each have a role in your relationship. And you don’t share your desires, fears, or what you love about one another.

You may have date nights. But you don’t have special time together that lights you up.

You’ve stopped touching or it’s limited, habitual, or lacks chemistry. And it’s routinized.

You see opportunities to connect but you freeze, fall into unconscious patterns, and perform routines based on conditioning rather than what’s authentic to you.

SOUND FAMILIAR?

SO HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE IN THE RIGHT PLACE?

Sex & Intimacy Coaching is For:

  • COUPLES WITH AN ALREADY GREAT RELATIONSHIP who want to evolve their sexual experiences and deepen their connection to create an even more amazing life together.

  • COUPLES WHO WANT TO HEAL and are willing to access love and compassion around woundings to create a solid foundation for experiencing intimacy together in the long-run.

  • COUPLES WHO WANT TO REKINDLE THEIR RELATIONSHIP and are in a long-term relationship or marriage where they have forgotten who they are and how to be together.

  • COMMITTED COUPLES WHOSE RELATIONSHIP IS NEW and who want to start off with clarity and self-awareness toward depth.

  • QUEER COUPLES, STRAIGHT COUPLES, OPEN COUPLES, AND COUPLES WITH OTHER PROGRESSIVE DYNAMICS who want to live authentic and aligned and need to know who they are and what they want outside of dominant paradigms.

Together I’ll Support You To Gain and Refine These SKILLS & CAPACITIES

Let’s Look At Each One Specifically:

What’s important to you, your needs, your wants, your desires, your fears, your triggers

Awareness through clarity is the first step. By identifying and educating you around your love, sex, mind, and heart, we begin to name the blocks, obstacles, challenges, and systems that stand in your way.

Your body, your mind, your heart, your sex

By embodying, experiencing, and accepting love and sex with authenticity, we also develop bone-deep awareness of what is systemic oppression, what is personal experiences from your own life, ancestry, and lineage, and what is you.

Verbal, non-verbal, vibes, emotions, written, text

By celebrating, holding space, inviting, and sharing, we grow the skills of giving and receiving through compassion and replace shame with love, safety, belonging, joy, pleasure, and acceptance.

Misunderstandings, guilt, anger, trauma, resentment

By witnessing, feeling, and liberating past experiences, grudges, resentments, and trauma, we can process deep feelings, vulnerable sensations, and triggered reactions wired in from your personal past, ancestry, and collective trauma experiences.

Explore yourself and your partner to express, invite, initiate, request, offer, receive

By forming a container, setting intentions, establishing mindsets, and exploring practical erotic and sexual intimacy knowledge, skills, and rituals, we can co-create the sex we want and the intimacy we desire.

How Are We Going To Achieve This Together?

WEEKLY 75-MINUTE SESSIONS

The full weekly session time (not a therapy “hour” that’s actually 50 minutes). 12 weekly sessions within 3 months

SUPPORT & ACCOUNTABILITY

Check-in emails four days after sessions for accountability and support

ACTION IN BETWEEN SESSIONS

Based on what we’ve talked about, embodied, and explored in session, emailed guided audios, practices, exercises, and resources support you to reinforce and deepen your change and transformation

COMPASSION & FIRMNESS

Whether being gentle or direct is what you need to be supported and take steps forward, we will oscillate back and forth to get you where you want to go

VERBAL, SOMATIC, & MINDFULNESS

I invite you to talk about what you're experiencing like you might in therapy with verbal, cognitive reasoning.

This is often referred to as top down healing.

I guide you to connect to your body and the sensations, imagination, and wisdom there, even if you've never done it before.

This may be experienced as going from the bottom up or going down and in.

I support you with mindfulness, awareness practices to slow down reactions and to cultivate the capacity to respond.

This is a sideways practice.

Using all three together supports a holistic and integrative approach that goes deep and supports long-lasting transformation.

SCIENCE & ENERGY

Approaches using neuroscience, modern psychology, and trauma resolution alongside inspiration from ancient traditions like tantra and taosim

FLEXIBILITY

Some room within our commitment to one another for emergencies, scheduling conflicts, vacations, rest, and integration when we do twelve sessions within three months

Before working with Daniela, my partner and I didn’t have the tools to create more intimacy and connection.

After spending time understanding what we were wanting in our relationship, Daniela taught us new skills and guided us through some powerful activities that helped us lean in towards each other in a new way.

- Lori

Your Investment

ONE EASY INSTALLMENT

$4,500

3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS

$1,500

Weekly Rate Includes:

12 weekly 75-minute sessions at the equivalent of $375 per week (add $35 per in-person session)

The full session time (it’s not based on a therapy hour, which is generally 50 minutes)

An email right after our session with two curated guided audios, practices, exercises, resources, and considerations

A check-in email four days later for accountability and support

Frequently Asked Questions:

  • Your commitment as a couple is for a 75-minute session each week in addition to time for home exercises and practices, which are usually about 15 minutes, 2-5 times per week.

    You commit to meet for twelve sessions within three months with the option to move to every other week, every three weeks, once a month, or on an as-needed basis after that.

  • We start with 75-minute sessions together via Zoom most weeks.

    You’ll be invited to focus on two or three things in between sessions.

    They are often one active practice or exercise that takes time and presence, and a second, more passive item that you can explore while cooking, driving, walking, showering, etc.

    Curated exercises and practices are provided for you to do each week on your own to deepen and integrate the work we’re doing in sessions along with passive considerations.

    These things may include activities from the fields of somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, neuroscience, trauma healing, modern psychology, and ancient Tantric and Taoist wisdom led within session.

    Finally, you will also receive consistent accountability and support with email check-ins in between sessions.

    They exist to acknowledge and celebrate your growth and/or if you find yourself feeling confused or stuck.

  • Therapy and counseling are a great fit for people who want to talk about their sex, love, and/or relationship problems and gain awareness of the problems themselves.

    Coaching is more appropriate for people who are aware of the problem and are committed and ready to take action to get what they want instead.

    The coaching I offer involves a wide variety of tools, practices, and techniques to get you results as quickly as possible.

    If you want to move from struggling or okay to thriving and flourishing, coaching is how you get there to experience and embody it.

  • I don't take insurance, and here's why.

    First, I am a certified Sex and Intimacy Coach and not a licensed therapist or counselor. Currently the latter is more regulated and systemically supported by insurance companies who may cover a portion of rates.

    Second, when insurance companies do cover services, they collect your personal data. This can include how often you meet, how long you meet for, over what period of time, and the different types of visits you have, like relationship and/or individual sessions. Insurance companies also can have access to more intimate details in your file, which often includes notes, plans, exercises, practices, recommendations, and more (Thank you to Amanda Walters for these insights).

    Finally, insurance companies are in the business of extracting labor and making money. Reimbursement rates tend to be low, certain diagnoses when working with clinicians are not covered under insurance plans, and claim denial is a common occurrence.

    I am here for confidentiality, greater safety, and privacy.

    I am here to value my gifts and offerings to you.

    Not taking insurance ensures I can protect your confidentiality to its fullest, and it means I can unapologetically earn a living that supports my family and me to thrive.

  • Your partner and you arrive to Zoom, and we enter into that time together with the intention to be present and connected.

    We begin with a grounding and centering practice then share celebrations and gratitude prompted from the previous week’s desires and your overall focus.

    The purpose is to acknowledge what is working and build off of it.

    The bulk of the session we focus on naming and exploring the next steps toward what you want to experience together by talking, engaging body-based practices, and/or mindfulness and awareness practices.

    At the end, I review two practices (one active and one passive) with you to explore in between sessions over the next week and beyond.

    Finally we end with each of you sharing two favorite moments, two moments you’re grateful for, or two insightful or ah-ha moments.

    I offer couples my two favorite moments to create a third perspective from the outside looking in, a ritual many couples look forward to and thoroughly enjoy.

    Afterward I send you both an email with the two exercises as a reminder, and I check in by email four days later.

    You can use this as an opportunity to check in with yourself, your partner, and/or hit reply and share with me what you’re experiencing.

  • I work with people in open relationships, polyamorous relationships, monogamous, and fluid or dynamic relationships.

    Working with people individually to gain clarity on their sexuality and relationships is also a part of my offerings. We can alternate coupled and individual sessions as requested and advised.

    I will work with you to curate a coaching experience relevant for your relationship structure.

  • When we work together, I support you with the most effective teachings steeped in somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, neuroscience, holistic healing, trauma resolution, and modern coaching blended with ancient tantric and taoist wisdom.

    We use embodied exercises, practices, and toy/tools as I guide you to uncover blocks, fears, and resistance and how to hold, heal, and integrate them to reveal the wholeness and health that is within you.

    The VITA™ (Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach) Method is often where we’ll start.

    Foundational beliefs of this method are:

    • Sexuality is sacred, beautiful, powerful, and natural

    • Pure love is the primary force that sustains us

    • Meaningful relationships are necessary for a joyful life

    Holistic tools working with the felt sense around awareness, mindfulness, guided meditation, breathwork, pleasure practices, trauma resolution, energy work, sounding, and movement support us to resolve even the deepest challenges.

  • I am a Certified Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship Coach with a specialization in Relationships through the VITA™ Institute (formerly the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality).

    I continued my studies pursuing additional specializations in Tantric Sex, Jade Egg, and Men's Work.

    I have a Masters Degree in Communication Studies with a focus on Women’s Studies and pedagogy, which has facilitated me in teaching college classes and workshops on interpersonal communication, small group communication, critical thinking, and argumentation.

    With additional trainings in somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, somatic abolitionism, and trauma resolution, I am committed to liberation away from social conditioning and stepping into self-responsibility and interconnectedness.

    I am also a gentle, restorative, and yin yoga instructor, having studied with dozens of acupuncturists, chiropractors, yoga teachers, and educators in various disciplines.

  • Not at all.

    We will discuss sex, love, and relationships and reference anatomy, but everyone will be clothed in each session.

    Some clients experience some discomfort with discussing these topics, which is understandable.

    I invite you to share what you’re experiencing—each session is a safer space to bravely share openly, even if that means naming that it feels awkward.

  • I live and work on the ancestral and unceded traditional territories of the current day Muwekma Ohlone tribe otherwise known as the Bay Area of California in the United States.

    Because we can connect via Zoom, I work with clients from all over the world.

  • I offer a free 15-minute phone call and an online 75-minute trial session for $375 USD to discover if we are a good fit for one another.

    After our time together, I send you a follow-up email with resources as well as an email checking in with you a few days later.

    To reflect a committed, mutually-beneficial relationship, I require payment for my time and expertise.

    If we decide to work together, next steps include reviewing and signing a trust agreement and a service agreement to make our expectations known and clear to one another.

  • Working on sex, love, and relationships can trigger fear.

    Fear can influence our actions, and we may decide staying comfortable is more important than moving through difficulty and toward growth.

    I value honesty and am happy to have a frank conversation with you to find out whether a desire to end our commitment to a discussed container is coming from a place of fear or because we’re not a good match.

    Sometimes unexpected life events can affect your ability to fully participate in a coaching container.

    If this happens, I ask that you communicate with me, so we can create a plan.

    In cooperation with your commitment and agreement, I commit to working with you for a specific amount of time.

    One or both people are welcome to voluntarily remove themselves from the coaching container.

    However, participants who voluntarily exit or discontinue any program will not receive a refund on funds already paid.

    Exiting the program early financially impacts me, and for this reason, my expectation is that you fulfill your commitment to pay the remaining balance over the duration mutually agreed upon if we don’t have an open conversation around next steps for everyone.

Hey. I’m Daniela

For me, nothing is more important than connection.

With over twenty-four years of experience teaching in college classrooms, yoga studios, and working with people one-one-one, I am here to support you in connecting with your inner wisdom, your body, and your partner.

For me, connection is where love and compassion meet, and it is the foundation for co-creating the relationship that meets your needs, heals your wounds, and fulfills your deepest desires.

Whether it’s clarity, improved communication, closer connection, profound healing, or an erotic intimacy and sexuality that makes you weak in the knees, you can experience epic together, and I will guide you there.