Does Your Relationship Err on the Side of Caution or Take Risks?

Hey, there,

How are you doing?

How are you really doing?

I'm not the type to ask if I didn't really care.

So I honestly invite you to hit reply and share with me what you're really experiencing, really noticing in terms of your sensations, emotions, and thoughts.

Also, in my family and on social media I'm experiencing people who are freaked out (insert toilet paper pun)...and those who are flippant and unconcerned.

( Not to be so binary about it.... )

My question is:

How is your relationship handling everything the coronavirus brings up?

If the two of you feel safe and loved and accepted in your relationship, you may be able to openly share what is coming up for each of you.

If the two of you know how to hold space for one another, you may be able to decide together what steps to take.

I want to offer you a simple way to check, so the two of you can step back and explore whether you want to err on the side of caution, take risks, or do something in between.

This feels about right.

Here are four steps you two can follow:

STEP ONE: Timer
Grab one of your phones or a kitchen timer and set it for seven minutes. 

Press play.

STEP TWO: Ask
Ask your partner, "What do you have around the coronavirus?"

Any time they stop or pause say, "Thank you. What do you have around the coronavirus?"

Do this until the timer goes off.

STEP THREE: Listen
It can make a big difference if you're facing your partner.

It can help if you hold eye contact with them. 

Listen without thinking about questions you want to ask, clarification you desire to have, or even things you want to agree with.

Listen. 
Hold space.
Be with your partner and what they're sharing.

STEP FOUR: Switch

Set the timer again for seven minutes.

Then invite your partner to ask you, "What do you have around the coronavirus?"


This simple communication practice and easy fourteen-minute container gives you each an opportunity to share and listen...

To feel seen and heard and held...

And to deeply connect within your relationship.

I'm sending you both so much love,
Daniela

P.S. I'm guiding couples just like you through my most effective and efficient and beautiful communication practice live and free on Thursday, April 2 from 7 - 7:30 pm PDT.

I figure Thursday nights are the perfect time for couples to connect around what they want for their upcoming weekend together. 

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