This is how I knew my relationship needed to shift....

I didn't know what to do.

I didn't know how to figure out what to do.

I was feeling emotions, sensations...having tons of thoughts.

Everything was spinning and whirling around. 

I was ungrounded and desperate for clarity and truth and embodied knowing.

I didn't know what I needed, and I did know I didn't want to make a decision just for the sake of making a decision.

I'm grateful I have tools and resources and support for moments like these.

I'm grateful I was clear enough to remember I am resourced.

So I'm here to share with you what I did, what I used, and how I came into clarity around knowing my relationship needed to shift.

Photo by Ilona Panych

Here are four steps for breathwork that awakened embodied truths within me:

STEP ONE: Comfort

Lay down comfortably on the floor or on a bed without any pillows under your head.

Begin to breathe in and out of your body and look for any way in which you can feel more comfortable.

STEP TWO: Breath

Open your mouth and relax your jaw.

Begin to breathe in and out of your mouth.

Now deepen your breath so it fills your entire torso all of the way into your lower belly.

The sound of your breath coming in and out of your mouth can begin to deepen like the ocean.

( Or a little like Darth Vader. )

Watch your belly rise and fall as you listen inhale and exhale.

STEP THREE: Connect 

Start to connect the breath.

Avoid a pause between the inhale and exhale and the exhale and inhale.

As soon as you've taken in a deep inhale all of the way into your lower belly, release into a long, smooth exhale.

Once your exhale is complete, begin the open-mouthed inhale again.

STEP FOUR: Feel

Focus on your body.

Feel your sensations.

Follow your breath, and invite any impulses to express.

Maybe you kick. Maybe tears fall. Maybe you yell. Perhaps you wail.

Give yourself permission to breathe, to move, to shake, to sound as your whole body fills with oxygen.

Continue for five minute, ten, fifteen, or even thirty minutes.


You, too...

All you need to remember is you are resourced and you have someone here to guide you whether you need clarity around your relationship, clarity around what you want and desire, or clarity around your life.

Sending you so much love,
Daniela

P.S. When and if you're willing to try breathwork, know a few things first:

• If you have a background with epilepsy, seizures, serious mental health issues, and/or severe asthma, breathwork can be dangerous.

• Breathwork allows your to gently take down cortical control, and things can rise up so you can be sensitive to what’s going on deep inside of your bodymind.

• Breathwork is a powerful tool that supports you to release things on the the deepest layers of the unconscious. If your body wants to move or sound, give it permission to express even if you don't understand why or how. Be open.

• During breathwork you may experience tingling with the oxygenation of your blood. This may show up as tetany, which is an involuntary contraction of your hands or your feet. This is safe and okay. You can choose to continue to breath until your body relaxes, or if you feel more comfortable, you can return to a natural breath until your hands or feet relax.

If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to reach out to me for support.