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Connection Doesn't Happen at Warp Speed; It Requires Space
I am all over the place. Maybe you can relate.
My brain is foggy.
My body is unsteady.
My desires are inarticulable.
I was peeing in the car every few seconds from a UTI
Several years ago I developed a UTI so painful that in the car on the way to the emergency room, I was peeing every few seconds onto a stack of cloth diapers I'd placed under me.
The few seconds of relief I had paled into comparison to the sharp, burning, twisting pain I felt.
The UTIs I've experienced I've never directly correlated to having sex either consciously or unconsciously.
Embody and Experience Your Inner Child for Deep Healing
At the intersection of two different triggers last week, I let myself sink into my darkened bedroom and cloudy thoughts.
I pulled the curtains across the brightness of the afternoon and climbed into my bed.
I wrapped the sheet and blankets around me tight.
This is How To Gently Awaken Your Sexuality with Spring Energy
Feel the sun warming the air...
See the flowers bloom yellow, red, pink...
Taste fresh, dripping fruit...
Inhale freshly cut grass and squeezed lemons...
Which is More Closed Off: Your Heart or Your Sexuality?
For just a moment, close your eyes or let them gently unfocus.
Breathe into your heart.
Is it open?
Can you expand and soften into your heart with some ease?
This is How You Remember Who You Are and Explore Tantra As Playful
Sometimes I forget that I went 30-something years without ever experiencing orgasm.
Sometimes I forget I am a certified Tantric Sex Coach.
Sometimes I forget that we're here for the full-spectrum experience of being human.
Gently Support One Another's Bodies and Sexuality with Loving Touch
Sit down with me?
I'm picturing us nestled around a small, square table.
The flat wood is darker, and the texture offers my chest calm and grounding sensations with a reminder of the outdoors.
Maybe you're across from me so we can look at one another.
This Is How You Connect Within...So You Know What You Need and Want
Deep breath.
What do I need to connect within right now...to connect with myself?
Space.
And permission.
Can we just be where we're at...right here, right now?
For a deeper connection within...so you might connect in love with your partner over the weekend...
Do something with me this morning?
Take a moment to perhaps close your eyes or just soften them.
Focus a few moments on your breath.
Lay Back, Remember Who You Are, and Return Home to Yourself
I lay back down after turning over to see what time it is.
It's too early.
My eyes are too dry, too swollen, too tired to be awake right now.
And here I am.
This Is How You Move Toward Embodied Self-Love
Something so powerful and deep happened in a coaching session a few weeks ago.
I've been thinking about it and wanting to share it, thinking it might click a few things into place for you, too.
Because most of us...we want to experience love with a partner, with our person.
The idea of self-love can feel so far-fetched and inaccessible because we first experience love in relationship and attachment to our primary caregivers.
When I felt the trauma of Trump begin to soften in my body, I couldn't ignore what came next
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The rawness of my core wound comes around every year.
The most vulnerable thing I could ever do is ask if you'd spend my birthday with me.
Even as I write the words, tears flood my eyes and spill over.
A knot clenches in my gut, and my throat becomes so tight it's almost impossible for me to breathe.
I try to swallow it down, but the icy terror in my heart threatens to heave up and out of my body.
This is How To Hold Yourself When Others Can't
I'm not sure I've ever experienced being more lonely than I have in the last several months.
Not alone...
But lonely.
That certain kind of loneliness that exists when I'm with other people
This is How To Give Yourself What You Most Need Right Now
I feel like I'm in the tornado outer funnel right now...
Just hanging on...
And hoping I don't get spit out in a manure patch.
This was shared with me recently, and I thought, That's about right.
This is how I knew my relationship needed to shift....
I didn't know what to do.
I didn't know how to figure out what to do.
I was feeling emotions, sensations...having tons of thoughts.
Everything was spinning and whirling around.
Gwen Stefani sings, What You Waiting For?
I've been waiting.
I've been holding back.
I've been keeping things to myself.
I've been collecting little stones and rocks of thoughts and emotions and experiences and sensations.