How to Not Get Overwhelmed and Numb To It All

I'm not sure where your thoughts or emotions are at right now, friend.

And over the last few days I've been running through a spectrum of grief and hope and despair and anger marked with sparks of action and creativity.

I've also been ruminating around what feminist marketing consultant Kelly Diels (she/her) calls my spot on the wall.

She says:

“I think of our oppressive culture, the one we’re trying to change, like a massive, thousand foot cement wall. Or maybe like a Game of Thrones ice wall.

I’m not a rock climber. I’m not a soldier. I’m not an engineer. I don’t own any sticks of dynamite. The usual methods for getting over that wall or blowing it up are not available to me.

But I do have tools. I do have something to contribute.

I can use my chisel (my writing, my connecting-the-dots analysis, my feminist marketing consulting work with clients).

I can pick my spot on the wall (the intersection between culture and marketing aka The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand and Culture-Making).

I can show up at my spot on the wall every single day. I can take my chisel and pick away at the same spot over and over again.”

My work is with relationships—our relationship within to ourselves and our relationship with our partner in love.

I've started connecting relationships within and in love to the collective...to our society, to our culture, to our humanity, too.

It's all intertwined.

So sometimes I get overwhelmed with where to start and where to be.

I have to come back to my spot on the wall.

I spent a dozen years studying, learning, applying, and teaching communication skills within academic walls and in academic books only to find that talking about things and writing about things can only take me so far.

( Kind of like traditional therapy modalities, and that's another story. )

Exploring different forms of yoga and meditation only took me so far....

When I tried everything I could to experience orgasm for the first time and wanted a deeper connection in my relationship, I found my way.

And I became the person I had been seeking out for years and years:

** A sex and intimacy coach. **

My spot on the wall involves guiding you down and in to your own liberation and freedom.

My spot on the wall involves supporting your partner and you to acknowledge your wounds and stories and to support you to dismantle the ways in which they unconsciously run your life.

My spot on the wall involves reflecting to you how the ways in which we treat ourselves and treat our partners are the ways in which we treat our neighbors and our communities, our countryfolk and human beings as a whole.

It isn't easy work.

And it's oh, so beautiful to hold and support the complexities of being alive as part of this vibrant Earth and universe.

My question to you is...

Where is your spot on the wall?

Sending you so much love,
Daniela

P.S. If you desire guidance around figuring it out together, I'm here.