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Are You Willing To Grow With Your Partner?
Back when I was training as an Integrated Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, I remember having conversations with my colleagues about what to look for in a partner.
What makes having the sex you want and the intimacy you desire possible in a relationship...for both of you?
The answer I came up with?
We Need More Guidance Around Self-Pleasuring and Sex
May I share something with you?
For decades I looked for guidance to support me to experience climax for the first time.
Maybe for a decade, my partner at the time and I looked for guidance around how to improve our sex life.
Books and sex therapists and outdated VHS videos got me nowhere.
Embody and Experience Your Inner Child for Deep Healing
At the intersection of two different triggers last week, I let myself sink into my darkened bedroom and cloudy thoughts.
I pulled the curtains across the brightness of the afternoon and climbed into my bed.
I wrapped the sheet and blankets around me tight.
This is How To Return to the Beginning of Sex and Intimacy Within and In Love
Sometimes...
you just have to scrap it all and start at the beginning.
I have triggered tendencies that want to burn bridges and return to ash.
That's not what I'm talking about.
This is How You Remember Who You Are and Explore Tantra As Playful
Sometimes I forget that I went 30-something years without ever experiencing orgasm.
Sometimes I forget I am a certified Tantric Sex Coach.
Sometimes I forget that we're here for the full-spectrum experience of being human.
This Is How You Move Toward Embodied Self-Love
Something so powerful and deep happened in a coaching session a few weeks ago.
I've been thinking about it and wanting to share it, thinking it might click a few things into place for you, too.
Because most of us...we want to experience love with a partner, with our person.
The idea of self-love can feel so far-fetched and inaccessible because we first experience love in relationship and attachment to our primary caregivers.
How to Not Get Overwhelmed and Numb To It All
I'm not sure where your thoughts or emotions are at right now, friend.
And over the last few days I've been running through a spectrum of grief and hope and despair and anger marked with sparks of action and creativity.
I've also been ruminating around what feminist marketing consultant Kelly Diels (she/her) calls my spot on the wall.
This is how you can honor your body's wisdom and sensitize to the celebrations of life
When I sit down to write to you, I consider what I'm going through, what I'm learning, and what I need.
I also pour over the threads I witness weaving themselves through the lives of my clients.
Yesterday some pain in my body had moved on, and I felt a sense of joy and happiness reignite within.