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"I'm tired" is the new "I'm fine." You're not tired. You're not fine.
I'm tired.
Are you?
I've noticed that for some people "tired" can be code for boredom or pessimism, frustration, irritation, impatience....
Sometimes it encompasses overwhelm, disappointment, doubt, or worry.
None of Us Wants to Be Abandoned...and how I want us to love more and deeper
A client wrote to me recently and asked,
"Can you help me to want her less...care about her less...and love her less than I do so that I am not putting pressure on her to communicate with me or have to be intimate with me emotionally?
Is that realistic?"
This is How You Remember Who You Are and Explore Tantra As Playful
Sometimes I forget that I went 30-something years without ever experiencing orgasm.
Sometimes I forget I am a certified Tantric Sex Coach.
Sometimes I forget that we're here for the full-spectrum experience of being human.
Acknowledging Where We Are To Get To Where We Want To Be
I am so grateful for Eliza's (she/her) reminder yesterday...for the permission her post offers me.
Because I have a pretty great relationship with gratitude. I come into celebration and thankfulness and gratitude quite easily.
And yesterday as I was acknowledging a lighter aspect of US Thanksgiving,
in addition to acknowledging National Day of Mourning and learning deeper around the myths and erasure of indigenous people,
I found I could barely lean into gratitude without a spring of grief upwelling right next to it.
How to Not Get Overwhelmed and Numb To It All
I'm not sure where your thoughts or emotions are at right now, friend.
And over the last few days I've been running through a spectrum of grief and hope and despair and anger marked with sparks of action and creativity.
I've also been ruminating around what feminist marketing consultant Kelly Diels (she/her) calls my spot on the wall.
We were born into a culture of injustice...and here's how we change it.
You and I.
We were born into a culture of oppression we did not consent to.
My youngest son...
A brown boy born in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia...