Here is what I want for us. Are you with me?

Photo by Toa Heftiba

Here is what I want for us:

I want a relationship where we experience a connection, a close bond, an attachment.

I want a relationship where I can read your cues around what you need and want, and you can read mine...where we're willing to learn one another's cues and respond to them.

I want to be a partner who responds in a warm, sensitive, and timely way to you, and I want you to be that partner for me, too.

I want you to trust that I can help you feel safe and cared for and supported in the world.

And I also want to trust you can help me feel that way.

I want us to feel relaxed when we seek help from one another and from our friends and family.

I want us to receive care and support—not with rejection or indifference close to the surface—but openly, safely, and with some ease.

My role in loving you is to support you to not feel abandoned or overwhelmed by me.

And your role in loving me is support me to not feel abandoned or overwhelmed by you.

I want us each to feel secure in our relationship and know that we're there for one another.

We are safe.

We are resilient.

We are ready to co-create.

We experience conflict as generative.

We can re-establish safety and connection.

We know how to stop conflict when it escalates into stress cycles.

Let's live with safety and aliveness.

Let's commit to this—commit to our relationship—so we can spend more time together enjoying what we love about one another.

Offering love to every piece of you,
Daniela

P.S. I'd love for you to share with me five things you love about your partner.

Hit reply and let me know. :)