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3 Simple Steps To Reignite Love & More in Your Relationship
I see your partner and you and hold what's possible for you both.
I see the excitement and exhilaration of honeymoon, springtime-like love and sex,
especially in the shift to autumn.
4 Steps for Clearing Time To Connect With Your Partner
When your partner and you were dating, you cleared out time to see one another, to do things, to have sex.
Sometimes you gave up sleep or money or a lunch hour or seeing friends to laugh and smile and experience one another.
4 Steps For Setting A Time Container for Getting sexy
When I was pre-orgasmic, I explored so many things wanting to experience orgasm for the first time.
I felt more than broken; I felt like I didn't belong to the human population (enneagram 4).
Ohhhhhhh I read books. I went to six therapists. I watched videos. I bought vibrating toys.
It's when I read Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm that I was first introduced to the concept of a time container.
Connection Doesn't Happen at Warp Speed; It Requires Space
I am all over the place. Maybe you can relate.
My brain is foggy.
My body is unsteady.
My desires are inarticulable.
White-Hot Lightning Kisses Are Within You
Have you ever kissed someone and experienced lightning?
Touched lips, entangled energies, and felt an electric pulse sweep through you to ignite your sensations…?
A friend has been sharing their experience with this, talking about what and how another person makes them feel when I said,
You are lightning.
I was peeing in the car every few seconds from a UTI
Several years ago I developed a UTI so painful that in the car on the way to the emergency room, I was peeing every few seconds onto a stack of cloth diapers I'd placed under me.
The few seconds of relief I had paled into comparison to the sharp, burning, twisting pain I felt.
The UTIs I've experienced I've never directly correlated to having sex either consciously or unconsciously.
We Need More Guidance Around Self-Pleasuring and Sex
May I share something with you?
For decades I looked for guidance to support me to experience climax for the first time.
Maybe for a decade, my partner at the time and I looked for guidance around how to improve our sex life.
Books and sex therapists and outdated VHS videos got me nowhere.
5 Steps for Coming into Presence and Connection with Your Partner and Loved Ones
"Wait. Wait. Can you say that again?"
I'm in the kitchen, and my youngest who is eight is next to me saying something about turtles and the beach.
A piece of me is replaying a past conversation with someone else as I pour some tea.
I recognize another piece wants to be in the present and connected to what he's sharing with me.
This is What Fun and Play Have To Do With Sex and Pleasure
I spontaneously went on a road trip to my friend's friend's place The Bearded Lady Pub to have some fun food (think beignets, fried Oreos, Twinkies, churros, cookie dough bites, etc.)
I gave myself permission to follow this whim despite not having any intentions or expectations.
Maybe inspired by Esther Perel's recent 7-day exploration around the art of foreplay...Perel first invites participants to focus on play.
This is How To Return to the Beginning of Sex and Intimacy Within and In Love
Sometimes...
you just have to scrap it all and start at the beginning.
I have triggered tendencies that want to burn bridges and return to ash.
That's not what I'm talking about.
7 Steps for Reclaiming Our Pleasure, Connection, and Interdependence
I need to remind us that sex is important.
Intimacy is important.
Closeness...is important.
We are created for pleasure.
We are designed for interdependence.
This is How To Gently Awaken Your Sexuality with Spring Energy
Feel the sun warming the air...
See the flowers bloom yellow, red, pink...
Taste fresh, dripping fruit...
Inhale freshly cut grass and squeezed lemons...
Which is More Closed Off: Your Heart or Your Sexuality?
For just a moment, close your eyes or let them gently unfocus.
Breathe into your heart.
Is it open?
Can you expand and soften into your heart with some ease?
The Most Difficult Season of Your Relationship Might Need Support
You are not alone.
If this has been the most difficult season your relationship has faced...
If this has been the most difficult chapter of your life...
You are not alone.
This is How You Remember Who You Are and Explore Tantra As Playful
Sometimes I forget that I went 30-something years without ever experiencing orgasm.
Sometimes I forget I am a certified Tantric Sex Coach.
Sometimes I forget that we're here for the full-spectrum experience of being human.
Are you feeling an auspicious opening toward the light today?
I've been thinking about you.
I woke up at 5:40 am this morning.
No real reason.
And when my logical, rational mind searched for reasons I might have woken up so early, I remembered it's December 21.
Three Ways to Return to Our Priorities in Pandemic Times
We have been doing this pandemic thing for over five months now.
Social distancing, sheltering-in-place, masks, hands-washing, working from home, online learning.
In some ways I've adapted.
In other moments I've completely lost my way.
This is How You Take Ownership of Your Sexuality
You may not be having sex or as much sex as you want with your partner during this pandemic.
Maybe—like me—your partner and you are sheltering-in-place in different locations.
You may be single or dating.
This is Where Amazing Sex Begins
I learned this tip around where amazing sex begins from Carlin Ross.
And it is:
Never show up to a moment where you want or believe sex could happen without oil or lubricant.
Why?
You Are Perfectly Human and Sacred
I am new to sacred.
If you grew up or are in a religion or spirituality or nature, sacred may be common for you to practice or appreciate.