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Tantra has become a compelling practice, spirituality, mindset, healing modality, and so much more.

And for good reason; it’s non-dual.

What that means is there isn’t a hierarchy between body and mind.

I have been deeply grieving the last several weeks and letting my body show me how to forgive myself and others, how to heal, and how to love.

There's no pushing or forcing, no "should" or "shouldn't."

There's a deep surrender to "This is how I feel right now...This is how it is in this moment."

Feel the sun warming the air...

See the flowers bloom yellow, red, pink...

Taste fresh, dripping fruit...

Inhale freshly cut grass and squeezed lemons...

A client wrote to me recently and asked,

"Can you help me to want her less...care about her less...and love her less than I do so that I am not putting pressure on her to communicate with me or have to be intimate with me emotionally?

Is that realistic?"

Sometimes I forget that I went 30-something years without ever experiencing orgasm.

Sometimes I forget I am a certified Tantric Sex Coach.

Sometimes I forget that we're here for the full-spectrum experience of being human.

Sit down with me?

I'm picturing us nestled around a small, square table.

The flat wood is darker, and the texture offers my chest calm and grounding sensations with a reminder of the outdoors.

Maybe you're across from me so we can look at one another.

I lay back down after turning over to see what time it is.

It's too early.

My eyes are too dry, too swollen, too tired to be awake right now.

And here I am.

Something so powerful and deep happened in a coaching session a few weeks ago.

I've been thinking about it and wanting to share it, thinking it might click a few things into place for you, too.

Because most of us...we want to experience love with a partner, with our person.

The idea of self-love can feel so far-fetched and inaccessible because we first experience love in relationship and attachment to our primary caregivers.