
TALKING SEX
A Holding Space Training for Self-Talk Around Self-Pleasuring and Partnered Sex
For Sensual & Sexual Individuals and Those Who Want to Be
Know your deepest truths around sex & intimacy
Without fear of being shut down, criticized, or told you're wrong, even by the voices in your head…
Without feeling broken, wrong, or spiraling into shame…
Without fighting yourself every time or feeling like your desires and fears don't matter…
Without needing to change a thing about yourself….
Instead, start with self-talk and communication that feels like unconditional love while exploring curious questions for experiencing more acceptance with & pleasure in your body
TALKING SEX
A Holding Space Training for Self-Talk Around Self-Pleasuring and Partnered Sex
For Individuals For Whom Sex is Important But Still Struggle
People in All Bodies, of All Expressions, and in All Relationship Statuses and Dynamics Are Invited & Welcome
Non-gendered & inclusive language used throughout. Please share access needs with me.
Friday, February 28
FOR INDIVIDUALS
IN PERSON
5:30 - 6:30 PM PT
A HEALING PLACE
841 Blossom Hill Road
Suite 112A
San Jose, CA 95123
Early price: $20 USD per person through February 26
Regular price: $25 USD per person
What you'll learn:
Playfully master the art of holding space even for conflicting parts of yourself
Practice active listening techniques that deepen trust and connection even within yourself
Learn frameworks for navigating sensitive topics with care so you’re not at war with yourself
Develop a rich vocabulary for expressing what’s working well and what you might be curious around exploring during self-pleasure and/or partnered sex so you don’t find yourself speechless
Build confidence in exploring what feels good in your body in this season of your life
This experience will support your self-talk and communication around sex, pleasure, and vulnerable topics. We’ll go through:
A playful holding space training
Exploring four questions in our own bodies that can invite more of what feels good with forearm self-touch
FOR QUEER FOLK, HETEROSEXUAL PEOPLE, ASEXUAL PEOPLE, SINGLE PEOPLE, MARRIED PEOPLE, SEX WORKERS AS WELL AS THOSE PRACTICING CNM OR MONOGAMY
This workshop is ideal for:
Individuals who want to stop being at war with themselves
Partners wanting to deepen their intimate connection first with themselves
Those exploring new dimensions of their sexuality
Anyone looking to develop more comfort discussing intimate topics
SKILLS & CAPACITIES WE WILL STRENGTHEN:
CLARIFY what kind of touch feels best to you in the moment without needing to stick to a script or your go-to moves
CONNECT to what it takes and feels like to hold space with a sense of unconditional love and acceptance for all parts of you
COMMUNICATE curiously with yourself four questions around what feels good, and listen when other parts of yourself react
HEAL shame, judgement, hurt, avoidance, disconnection, and being at war with yourself
EXPLORE a loving and compassionate space within you where all parts of you are welcome, and you choose how you want to feel and act
HERE IS WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT IN DETAIL:
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Before you arrive and as we start, you’ll be invited to create a space—ideally in your bedroom, and the couch or kitchen table works, too—wherever you have sound privacy and feel comfortable and safe enough.
You can also bring what invites the most presence and connection for you.
Having a candle to light sets an energetic intention to focus on yourself. -
I will introduce myself and the practices we'll be moving through.
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We'll begin with a guided meditation for meeting yourself and coming into presence and connection as well as naming our intentions.
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I’ll guide you to locate a resource within you or just outside of you for any time you feel overwhelmed, panic, or a sense of flashback. We’ll finish by arriving and orienting to the space before we move on.
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Learn a process for intentionally noticing negative self-talk in a pillow process inspired by gestalt methods while you share and listen to different parts of yourself in a light and playful manner before settling into embodying a space for your deepest truths and desires to emerge.
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Continuing with verbal guidance from me around touching your own forearm, you'll explore four questions that can direct you toward more of what feels good:
- How is the speed?
- How is the pressure?
- How is the location?
- How is the style or stroke? -
You will be given time to write and process around the following topics:
What did I experience?
What did I feel?
What did I learn?
What would support me to feel cared for, supported, safer, and more grounded in myself as I leave the space and head into the rest of my day?
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As we come to a close, I’ll give you a sense of what to expect while continuing to process and integrate this experience as well as how to apply it in your day-to-day life.
You’ll receive an email from me within 24 hours with a guided audio and additional offerings for support.