CREATE YOUR SPACE: Before you arrive and once we start, you’ll be invited to create a spot—ideally in your bedroom, and the couch or kitchen table works, too—where you feel comfortable and safe enough with each other. You can also bring what invites the most presence and connection for you. Having a candle to light sets an energetic intention to focus on one another, and having a hand towel and your favorite oil or lubricant nearby makes for easier shifts to sexual intimacy if you both want to.
 

INTRO: I will introduce myself and you both to starting a Sex Practice as well as why we're gathered live and online in service of collective belonging. I’ll invite everyone to turn their mics and video off.

ON A DIAL CHECK-IN: I invite you to check in on a scale from 0 to 10, how open are you to having sex right now? Where zero is, “No, thank you. Not right now.” and a ten is “Yes, please. Let’s take off our clothes.” and anything from 1 to 9 is a willingness, a curiosity, a maybe coming from our sexuality and our body.
 

SHIFTING & INTENTION-SETTING: Fifteen minutes in we’ll begin the formal Sex Practice with a guided meditation for meeting yourself, coming into presence and connection as well as our intentions for this Sex Practice.

RESOURCING, ARRIVING, & ORIENTING: I’ll guide you to locate a resource within your or just outside of you for any time you feel overwhelmed, panic, or a sense of flashback during the Sex Practice. We’ll finish by arriving and orienting to the space before we move on.
 

HOLDING SPACE TRAINING: Experience a learning process where you intentionally explore communication together by alternating interrupting one another in a light and playful manner before settling into embodying a space for your partner's and your deepest truths to emerge.
 

SEXUAL FEEDBACK QUESTIONS WITH YOURSELF: Continuing with verbal guidance from me around touching your own forearm, you'll explore four questions that can direct you toward more of what feels good:

- How is the speed?

- How is the pressure?

- How is the location (of my finger, hand, penis, the toy, etc.)?

- How is the style or stroke?
 

SEXUAL FEEDBACK QUESTIONS WITH YOUR PARTNER: Finally, with consent from your partner, you'll touch their forearm while asking and adjusting to these four questions with the intention of inviting them to experience pleasure:

- How is the speed?

- How is the pressure?

- How is the location (of my finger, hand, penis, the toy, etc.)?

- How is the style or stroke?
 

RECAP & AFTERCARE: The two of you will be given an equal amount of time to share around the following topics:

• What did you experience?
  

• What did you feel?
  

• What did you love?
  

• Would you want anything different?
  

• What would support you to feel cared for, supported, safer, and more grounded in yourself and from your partner as you leave the space and head into the rest of your evening?
  

ON A DIAL CHECK-IN: I invite you to check in on a scale from 0 to 10, how open are you to having sex right now? Where zero is, “No, thank you. Not right now.” and a ten is “Yes, please. Let’s take off our clothes.” and anything from 1 to 9 is a willingness, a curiosity, a maybe coming from our sexuality and our body.
 

TAKE IT HOME: As we come to a close, I’ll give you a sense of what to expect while continuing to process and integrate this experience and how to bring it home with you. You’ll receive an email from me within 24 hours with our recording and additional offerings for support.