After the two of you have shifted into your Sex Practice, and as partners and lovers are ready to engage one another and your relationship, begin by remembering what is most important to you around your romantic relationship.

Maybe you need love.

Perhaps you want safety.

Maybe you need connection.

Perhaps you want respect.

Maybe you need excitement.

Perhaps you want freedom.

Then you might notice which of these are the best use of your time together today:

• Clarifying
  

• Connecting
  

• Communicating
  

• Healing
  

• Co-Creating Sexual intimacy

Consider what you may need to address to feel loved, to feel safe, and to feel accepted by your partner.

This supports you to be open and ready to move toward sexual intimacy with an Enthusiastic YES!

Then decide what you can do together concurrently or whose needs and wants you'll address first.

The two of you might talk about something specific.

Perhaps you need to take some time to breathe and be together.

Maybe you cuddle.

Consider moving toward intimate touching and exploring.

Set a timer on your phone (which otherwise can be silenced) for half of the time remaining minus ten minutes for the last step of your Sex Practice.

Finally, keep in mind that the path toward sex and intimacy can look like crying, screaming, kicking, shutting down, numbing out, or moving through resistance.

It’s all okay.

Your Sex Practice is for consciously acknowledging and allowing whatever you're feeling and experiencing that is in the way of your partner and you connecting sexually.

STEP 5: SWITCH

After the timer goes off, thank each other.

If you are taking turns, switch to addressing the second partner's needs and wants toward sexual intimacy.

Reciprocity and balancing is very important in a relationship.

Again, set a timer on your phone for the remaining time minus ten minutes for the last step.