More Around Communication

My wish is that you have an amazing, deep, connected, vibrant, expressive sexual connection with yourself and with your partner.

This is my work. This is my offering.

And when the hypocrisy of our cultures and societies oftentimes show up at the intersections of Puritanical, religious views and capitalizing on the selling of youthful sex and honeymoon sex, our bodyminds get confused and freeze.

This is why my work exists.

I see you relaxing back, receiving so much love and care and support that you need and want.

I see you doing it with ease and it coming to you so lusciously.

Here's the thing, though.

Most sitcoms don't show the characters knowing what they want, communicating what they want, or getting what they want.

When I was pre-orgasmic, I explored so many things wanting to experience orgasm for the first time.

I felt more than broken; I felt like I didn't belong to the human population (enneagram 4).

Ohhhhhhh I read books. I went to six therapists. I watched videos. I bought vibrating toys.

It's when I read Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm that I was first introduced to the concept of a time container.

You.

Me.

What do we know about supporting long term relationships to thrive, to flourish...

To experience the fullness of being human...

To explore the richness, depth, passion, and connection of being alive?

"Wait. Wait. Can you say that again?"

I'm in the kitchen, and my youngest who is eight is next to me saying something about turtles and the beach.

A piece of me is replaying a past conversation with someone else as I pour some tea.

I recognize another piece wants to be in the present and connected to what he's sharing with me.

I have been deeply grieving the last several weeks and letting my body show me how to forgive myself and others, how to heal, and how to love.

There's no pushing or forcing, no "should" or "shouldn't."

There's a deep surrender to "This is how I feel right now...This is how it is in this moment."

For just a moment, close your eyes or let them gently unfocus.

Breathe into your heart.

Is it open?

Can you expand and soften into your heart with some ease?

You are not alone.

If this has been the most difficult season your relationship has faced...

If this has been the most difficult chapter of your life...

You are not alone.