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To Be Chosen, You Have To Communicate Your Needs First
I see you relaxing back, receiving so much love and care and support that you need and want.
I see you doing it with ease and it coming to you so lusciously.
Here's the thing, though.
Most sitcoms don't show the characters knowing what they want, communicating what they want, or getting what they want.
Connection Doesn't Happen at Warp Speed; It Requires Space
I am all over the place. Maybe you can relate.
My brain is foggy.
My body is unsteady.
My desires are inarticulable.
Are You Willing To Grow With Your Partner?
Back when I was training as an Integrated Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, I remember having conversations with my colleagues about what to look for in a partner.
What makes having the sex you want and the intimacy you desire possible in a relationship...for both of you?
The answer I came up with?
We Need More Guidance Around Self-Pleasuring and Sex
May I share something with you?
For decades I looked for guidance to support me to experience climax for the first time.
Maybe for a decade, my partner at the time and I looked for guidance around how to improve our sex life.
Books and sex therapists and outdated VHS videos got me nowhere.
7 Steps for Reclaiming Our Pleasure, Connection, and Interdependence
I need to remind us that sex is important.
Intimacy is important.
Closeness...is important.
We are created for pleasure.
We are designed for interdependence.
This is How You Remember Who You Are and Explore Tantra As Playful
Sometimes I forget that I went 30-something years without ever experiencing orgasm.
Sometimes I forget I am a certified Tantric Sex Coach.
Sometimes I forget that we're here for the full-spectrum experience of being human.
This Is How You Move Toward Embodied Self-Love
Something so powerful and deep happened in a coaching session a few weeks ago.
I've been thinking about it and wanting to share it, thinking it might click a few things into place for you, too.
Because most of us...we want to experience love with a partner, with our person.
The idea of self-love can feel so far-fetched and inaccessible because we first experience love in relationship and attachment to our primary caregivers.
This is how you can honor your body's wisdom and sensitize to the celebrations of life
When I sit down to write to you, I consider what I'm going through, what I'm learning, and what I need.
I also pour over the threads I witness weaving themselves through the lives of my clients.
Yesterday some pain in my body had moved on, and I felt a sense of joy and happiness reignite within.