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None of Us Wants to Be Abandoned...and how I want us to love more and deeper
A client wrote to me recently and asked,
"Can you help me to want her less...care about her less...and love her less than I do so that I am not putting pressure on her to communicate with me or have to be intimate with me emotionally?
Is that realistic?"

Acknowledging Where We Are To Get To Where We Want To Be
I am so grateful for Eliza's (she/her) reminder yesterday...for the permission her post offers me.
Because I have a pretty great relationship with gratitude. I come into celebration and thankfulness and gratitude quite easily.
And yesterday as I was acknowledging a lighter aspect of US Thanksgiving,
in addition to acknowledging National Day of Mourning and learning deeper around the myths and erasure of indigenous people,
I found I could barely lean into gratitude without a spring of grief upwelling right next to it.

This is How to Orient Toward Thriving in a Pandemic
At some point in the last few weeks I’ve sunk deeper into the realization that
Things aren’t going to change anytime soon.
I realized I’ve been treading water.
Legs scissor-kicking underwater.

We were born into a culture of injustice...and here's how we change it.
You and I.
We were born into a culture of oppression we did not consent to.
My youngest son...
A brown boy born in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia...