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4 Questions to Ask to Discover More Pleasure in Your and Your Partner's Bodies
My wish is that you have an amazing, deep, connected, vibrant, expressive sexual connection with yourself and with your partner.
This is my work. This is my offering.
And when the hypocrisy of our cultures and societies oftentimes show up at the intersections of Puritanical, religious views and capitalizing on the selling of youthful sex and honeymoon sex, our bodyminds get confused and freeze.
This is why my work exists.
Can We Grieve This Pandemic Freeze State Together?
I spent the first half of yesterday contemplating the freeze we're all in.
A cycle of stillness and rest...
And also a stress cycle of numb and stuck and cold.
It's been a long yin-state since February.
This is How I Realized My Heart is Numbed
Sometime recently a friend forwarded me a list of journaling prompts, questions to explore and really look at around pandemic, coronavirus, social distancing, COVID-19, shelter-in-place, quarantine, isolation, ventilators, ICU.
I kept her email and every once in awhile would open it up and read through the questions.
Well, actually, I'd read the first prompt and stop.
Here's Why You Should Avoid Texting Important Conversations
Ahem.
I should know better.
The first time I meet with clients -- whether individually or with their partner -- we explore and go over stress cycles:
How Safe Is It For You to Feel Your Emotions Around Your Partner?
I can't look you in the eye.
My worldview narrows.
I can't feel my body or anything in it.
My brain begins to shut down high-level functioning.
I feel like I'm floating and not attached to anything.