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To Be Chosen, You Have To Communicate Your Needs First
I see you relaxing back, receiving so much love and care and support that you need and want.
I see you doing it with ease and it coming to you so lusciously.
Here's the thing, though.
Most sitcoms don't show the characters knowing what they want, communicating what they want, or getting what they want.
3 Simple Steps To Reignite Love & More in Your Relationship
I see your partner and you and hold what's possible for you both.
I see the excitement and exhilaration of honeymoon, springtime-like love and sex,
especially in the shift to autumn.
Are You Willing To Grow With Your Partner?
Back when I was training as an Integrated Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, I remember having conversations with my colleagues about what to look for in a partner.
What makes having the sex you want and the intimacy you desire possible in a relationship...for both of you?
The answer I came up with?
7 Steps for Reclaiming Our Pleasure, Connection, and Interdependence
I need to remind us that sex is important.
Intimacy is important.
Closeness...is important.
We are created for pleasure.
We are designed for interdependence.
The Most Difficult Season of Your Relationship Might Need Support
You are not alone.
If this has been the most difficult season your relationship has faced...
If this has been the most difficult chapter of your life...
You are not alone.
Gently Support One Another's Bodies and Sexuality with Loving Touch
Sit down with me?
I'm picturing us nestled around a small, square table.
The flat wood is darker, and the texture offers my chest calm and grounding sensations with a reminder of the outdoors.
Maybe you're across from me so we can look at one another.
This is How You Take Ownership of Your Sexuality
You may not be having sex or as much sex as you want with your partner during this pandemic.
Maybe—like me—your partner and you are sheltering-in-place in different locations.
You may be single or dating.
This is Why Unspoken Conversations Linger Between You Two
I'm sorry your partner and you had that same circular argument again that led to...nothing.
I'm sorry you spiraled into that same funk you've been experiencing for years except now it feels...hollow.
It's like the sensations and emotions aren't even fresh anymore.
They're played out.
Who Do You Talk To?
Many years ago, I found myself laid off from my teaching job, caring for two young children, and floundering.
Oh, yeah. And my spouse and I were fighting.
I would yell at him from the doorway while he was sitting on the couch looking at me blankly. Then I would leave in a rage, wondering where I could go to figure things out and wondering who would understand.