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3 Simple Steps To Reignite Love & More in Your Relationship
I see your partner and you and hold what's possible for you both.
I see the excitement and exhilaration of honeymoon, springtime-like love and sex,
especially in the shift to autumn.
4 Steps for Clearing Time To Connect With Your Partner
When your partner and you were dating, you cleared out time to see one another, to do things, to have sex.
Sometimes you gave up sleep or money or a lunch hour or seeing friends to laugh and smile and experience one another.
Connection Doesn't Happen at Warp Speed; It Requires Space
I am all over the place. Maybe you can relate.
My brain is foggy.
My body is unsteady.
My desires are inarticulable.
White-Hot Lightning Kisses Are Within You
Have you ever kissed someone and experienced lightning?
Touched lips, entangled energies, and felt an electric pulse sweep through you to ignite your sensations…?
A friend has been sharing their experience with this, talking about what and how another person makes them feel when I said,
You are lightning.
5 Steps for Coming into Presence and Connection with Your Partner and Loved Ones
"Wait. Wait. Can you say that again?"
I'm in the kitchen, and my youngest who is eight is next to me saying something about turtles and the beach.
A piece of me is replaying a past conversation with someone else as I pour some tea.
I recognize another piece wants to be in the present and connected to what he's sharing with me.
This is How To Return to the Beginning of Sex and Intimacy Within and In Love
Sometimes...
you just have to scrap it all and start at the beginning.
I have triggered tendencies that want to burn bridges and return to ash.
That's not what I'm talking about.
7 Steps for Reclaiming Our Pleasure, Connection, and Interdependence
I need to remind us that sex is important.
Intimacy is important.
Closeness...is important.
We are created for pleasure.
We are designed for interdependence.
This is How To Gently Awaken Your Sexuality with Spring Energy
Feel the sun warming the air...
See the flowers bloom yellow, red, pink...
Taste fresh, dripping fruit...
Inhale freshly cut grass and squeezed lemons...
Are you feeling an auspicious opening toward the light today?
I've been thinking about you.
I woke up at 5:40 am this morning.
No real reason.
And when my logical, rational mind searched for reasons I might have woken up so early, I remembered it's December 21.
I've got deep questions around relationships right now.
Distancing in the form of individuation and differentiating yourself from your partner is normal and healthy.
It supports autonomy and growth and prevents enmeshment and...
I dare say...
a toxic intimacy that snuffs out the possibility of passion.
Three Ways to Return to Our Priorities in Pandemic Times
We have been doing this pandemic thing for over five months now.
Social distancing, sheltering-in-place, masks, hands-washing, working from home, online learning.
In some ways I've adapted.
In other moments I've completely lost my way.
This is How You Take Ownership of Your Sexuality
You may not be having sex or as much sex as you want with your partner during this pandemic.
Maybe—like me—your partner and you are sheltering-in-place in different locations.
You may be single or dating.
This is Where Amazing Sex Begins
I learned this tip around where amazing sex begins from Carlin Ross.
And it is:
Never show up to a moment where you want or believe sex could happen without oil or lubricant.
Why?
6 Steps for Taking Responsibility for Triggers and Healing (your own and/or your partner's)
One of my deepest wounds and greatest triggers of unworthiness happened this week.
My birthday.
It's become a well-worn path bordered by landmines and avoidance.
Shaun's taken to be my guide on occasion, and this year was especially sweet.
3 Steps for Finding Peace in Your Relationship During Triggering Times
I've been waking up angry.
Throughout my days I'll find moments of connection and even moments of peace.
And then BOOM!
Another wave of rage will wash over me.
5 Things #MeToo Needs You To Heal In Your Relationship
When I shared with my partner that the foundation of my sex life has been guilt and pressure and performing pleasure for the benefit of lovers I've been with...
It didn't go well.
My partner and I were frozen around what to do after this revelation.
What did it mean about our relationship?
4 Reasons to Take Your Relationship Past the Fireworks and To The Stars
What is your idea of Tantra?
If you're like many there's something about Sting and seven-hour orgasms rolling around in your head.
And...
Well...
That part is true.