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Three Ways to Return to Our Priorities in Pandemic Times
Daniela Stevens Daniela Stevens

Three Ways to Return to Our Priorities in Pandemic Times

We have been doing this pandemic thing for over five months now.

Social distancing, sheltering-in-place, masks, hands-washing, working from home, online learning.

In some ways I've adapted.

In other moments I've completely lost my way.

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This is How You Take Ownership of Your Sexuality
Daniela Stevens Daniela Stevens

This is How You Take Ownership of Your Sexuality

You may not be having sex or as much sex as you want with your partner during this pandemic.

Maybe—like me—your partner and you are sheltering-in-place in different locations.

You may be single or dating.

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This is Why Video Chatting with Your Loved Ones is So Hard
Daniela Stevens Daniela Stevens

This is Why Video Chatting with Your Loved Ones is So Hard

Before all of this happened, my partner and I already had a lot of experience with distance.

Being in an international, long distance relationship is hard.

  • Closed borders.

  • She's a frontlines healthcare worker.

  • I'm a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach.

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This is How I Realized My Heart is Numbed
Daniela Stevens Daniela Stevens

This is How I Realized My Heart is Numbed

Sometime recently a friend forwarded me a list of journaling prompts, questions to explore and really look at around pandemic, coronavirus, social distancing, COVID-19, shelter-in-place, quarantine, isolation, ventilators, ICU.

I kept her email and every once in awhile would open it up and read through the questions.

Well, actually, I'd read the first prompt and stop.

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What is there really even to say to one another?
Daniela Stevens Daniela Stevens

What is there really even to say to one another?

I'm feeling the urge to share so many things with you.

And...

I am concurrently holding a piece that's says, "What's the point? Where would I start?"

I'm curious if you're experiencing something similar when you turn to look at your partner at the end of the day...at the end of this unique week.

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This is Why Unspoken Conversations Linger Between You Two
Daniela Stevens Daniela Stevens

This is Why Unspoken Conversations Linger Between You Two

I'm sorry your partner and you had that same circular argument again that led to...nothing.

I'm sorry you spiraled into that same funk you've been experiencing for years except now it feels...hollow.

It's like the sensations and emotions aren't even fresh anymore.

They're played out.

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This is Why You Can't Solve Your Relationship Problems
Daniela Stevens Daniela Stevens

This is Why You Can't Solve Your Relationship Problems

Many years ago, I found myself laid off from my teaching job, caring for two young children, and floundering. 

Oh, yeah. And my spouse and I were fighting. 

I would yell at him from the doorway while he was sitting on the couch looking at me blankly.

Then I would leave in a rage, wondering where I could go to figure things out and wondering who would understand.

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Take A Look Back at Your Weekend, Would You?
Daniela Stevens Daniela Stevens

Take A Look Back at Your Weekend, Would You?

Typically I write blogs on Friday to support a deeper connection with your partner over the weekend.

Today I invite you to take a look back at your weekend.

Are things you desire to clear, release, or redo?

Maybe something you said you'd like to figure out how to say better...

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Gwen Stefani sings, What You Waiting For?
Daniela Stevens Daniela Stevens

Gwen Stefani sings, What You Waiting For?

I've been waiting.

I've been holding back.

I've been keeping things to myself.

I've been collecting little stones and rocks of thoughts and emotions and experiences and sensations. 

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